Habla Espanol?

It's the loneliest place in the world...

The strangest, most perverse thing about being seriously ill, is that while people will focus on the sufferer, the sufferer will focus on everyone else - you know, there's that desire to square everything away before the big sleep. When confronted with uncertainty, you have to prepare for the worst.

But God help you if you try to do it in advance. If you leave it too late, events take over, and you are left to provide inadequate explanation & comfort. If you do it in advance, you are in danger of unecessarily upsetting those you care most about.

What to do?

Fuck it. Play on with the straight game; they'll understand.